Tuesday, 13 October 2026

From "Frankenstein"

 

“On her deathbed the fortitude and benignity did not desert her. She died calmly and her countenance expressed affection even in death. I need not describe the feelings of those whose dearest ties are rent by that most irreparable evil, the void that presents itself to the soul and the despair.

It is so long before the mind can persuade itself that she whom we saw every day and whose very existence appeared a part of our own can have departed forever, that the brightness of a beloved eye can have been extinguished, and the sound of a voice so familiar and dear can be hushed, never more to be heard.

Yet from whom has not that rude hand rent away some dear connection. And why should I describe a sorrow which all have felt and must feel. The time at length arrives when grief  is rather an indulgence than a necessity  . and the smile that plays upon the lips, although it may be deemed a sacrilege, is not banished. She is dead, but we still have duties which we ought to perform. We must continue our course with the rest, and learn to think ourselves fortunate, whilst one remains whom the spoiler has not seized.”

                                          Mary Shelley

Wednesday, 7 October 2026

Mary

Back in 2013, and with his second failed marriage behind him DZ wrote a tongue in cheek post, expressing the view that, while he was not looking to get married again he might reconsider if he met someone who ticked all the boxes, which were listed.

The next five years were spent in a variety of minor relationships with ladies who were, for the most part, personable, pleasant and fun to be with, and yet didn’t quite stir me. I began to think that my tick box list was too demanding, unreasonable and over optimistic. Especially at my age then, at 65.

And then, in August 2018 I met HER! She was thirteen years my junior, and to my great surprise she ticked all the boxes, including some not on the list. We fell totally in love, and were married the following July.

What followed were the best seven years of my life. Ever. We went everywhere together and shared every experience. And after I retired we were together almost 24 hours a day. And it was wonderful and we never tired of each other. I looked forward to growing old with her.

And then, on the exact eighth anniversary of our meeting for the first time, she fell ill. She was in hospital for five weeks, and then she died. I have lost something precious and irreplaceable.

Mary. 6 January 1966 - 26 September 2026
RIP